We always create what we fear/avoid the most, and no matter how long you wait, you will fight your parents and yourself along the way as you raise your kids. It may be minimal internal battles as you second guess your way through an issue with the little ones or full blown emotion brought on by an ill-timed(like there is an actual good time) tantrum.
I waited a long time to marry and have kids, alot of which was to avoid recreating the conflicts I had as a youth. There a number of reasons really, I wanted to travel and see Life unrestrained and know myself better, but this is the big one. I wanted to be able to focus on the issue/wife/kids and not have it be about me because me was already taken care of. I wanted to know the battles worth fighting and how to best fight them. A lot of this is better when you have the right partner. My wife is amazing and has shown me so many beautiful and useful things since we first met, but what initially attracted me to her was what I still to this day love her most for, the simplicity of her happiness.
It doesn't take much to be happy when one chooses so, just watch any two little kids when they meet on a play ground, they will follow each other around and find tons of ways to have fun, even if it is just the folowing each other around part. My wife, and now my boys, are a daily reminder that happiness is not conditional, it is a choice. By making this choice; forgetting about bills and foreclosure and our relatives woes with healthcare and earthquakes around the world, I can focus fully on enjoying the gifts of my kids, who constantly surprise me with their fledgling modes of expression and play.
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